Hello Bleaders (blog readers)
There were two reasons for us wanting to start this blog for Sophia.
1) To inform family and close friends of what she is up to and the changes in her life.
2) To respect her privacy and keep her life off of Facebook.
Jason and I went to an adoption seminar a year ago and they talked about the good and bad of Facebook with adoption. Its great for communicating and keeping in touch but its bad for having the child's life broadcasted all over FB. I'm sure you are all aware that even if your privacy settings are high your friends can see if you have been tagged and if you Like or comment on a picture, article, status etc. I have found myself looking at a picture of a friend who was tagged in a photo and then I am looking at someones random birthday party who I don't even know.
At the time Jason and I thought FB is a great place to keep in touch with family but now we don't like the idea of every family moment shared with everyone who is bored and creeping pages to pass the time.
We totally understand that we are all so happy and proud of Sophia and want to share that with the world but we ask that anything posted (pictures included) on the blog please remain on the blog and not transferred to FB. If you would like to give out the blog address please do. I have found that only those who really care about Sophia are regular readers of her blog. I will continue to post a picture now and then on FB to keep people informed but I will not tag anyone in the picture because then everyone who is friends with them can see it and I want to respect the privacy of everyone.
Note: All of the people pictured on the blog were asked and/or informed that the picture would be used for the blog. If they said no I would totally respect that and not post it.
Perhaps this sounds like I am going crazy with privacy but there is good reason. It all started when I ran into an acquaintance (who is on my FB) and her friend (whom I did not know). I was introduced as "This is Amber and her adopted daughter Sophia". I stood there in shock and hurt that she felt the need to add the 'adopted' part. I mean who cares if this stranger knows that Sophie is adopted. Now came the looks and questions. I get asked all of the time about her birth family like "how old are her birth parents?" "where do they live?" and even some hurtful questions like "did they do drugs?". I personally find this line of questioning offensive. Just because Sophia is adopted does not mean that the world gets to know about her life and judge people in her life.
I now shut people down right away if I feel that they are asking in a judging way or if they are just being nosy. Some people are just curious about the adoption process and how it has changed over the years. Those people I will talk to and educate but still not talk about Sophia's birth family except to say that they are all great people and we have a good relationship with them.
We love that you are all following her life but please respect her privacy and do not transfer information to FB.
Thank you
Jason, Amber and cute little Sophia :)
xoxoxo